When Sara and Benji first reached out to me from their home in midtown Toronto, they were planning a beautiful Jewish wedding but found themselves unsure about a question many couples quietly wonder: “Is it okay if a Cantor — not a Rabbi — officiates our wedding?” They had already decided they wanted a traditional Jewish wedding ceremony filled with meaningful blessings, music, and rituals. But they weren’t part of a synagogue and didn’t have an ongoing relationship with a R

Planning a Jewish wedding can be one of the most meaningful journeys a couple takes together. But there’s a moment in the process that often brings both excitement and nerves: writing the vows or crafting the script for the ceremony itself. For many couples, the challenge is not love, it’s language. How do you put such deep feelings into words that feel authentic, Jewish, and personal? That’s the question Brit and Adam from Toronto asked me when they first began planning thei

Introduction: When Mark and Jessica got engaged in Toronto, they were filled with joy. But as the excitement settled and the planning began, a challenging question emerged: who would officiate their Jewish wedding? They weren’t synagogue members. They weren’t sure where to begin. They Googled “Jewish Wedding Toronto” and found a lot of rabbis, a few Jewish wedding officiants , and even some do-it-yourself suggestions. But nothing felt right. That’s when a friend connected the

By Cantor Ben | Jewish Wedding Officiant in Toronto When Mark and Jessica first reached out to me, they were clear on one thing: they wanted a Jewish wedding ceremony that felt personal, not just traditional. As a Jewish wedding officiant in Toronto, I hear this often from couples who care deeply about their heritage but also want the ceremony to reflect their unique love story, personality, and values. They had attended plenty of traditional Jewish weddings, each meaningful

Hi, I’m Cantor Ben — a Jewish Wedding Officiant serving the greater Toronto area and beyond. Over the years, I’ve had the privilege of officiating traditional and modern Jewish wedding ceremonies in a wide variety of locations — from grand ballrooms to cozy backyards, from lakefront decks to mountaintop vistas. But one of the most beautiful weddings I’ve ever led took place outdoors, at sunset, on a quiet family-owned farm just outside of Toronto. This is the story of Lindsey

When Ashley and Brad invited me into their home in Toronto to discuss their upcoming Jewish wedding, the excitement was already bubbling. They had chosen a beautiful Jewish wedding venue by the lake, picked their flowers, and even designed their Jewish wedding chuppah. But as we sat down at their kitchen table with mugs of tea in hand, Ashley leaned in and asked something I’ve heard many times from couples who want meaning but also clarity: “Do we really need a Ketubah? Is it

When I first sat down with Zoe and Tommy, a thoughtful couple from Toronto planning their Jewish wedding, they had a lot of questions. They had already chosen a beautiful Jewish wedding venue overlooking the city skyline. Their families were thrilled, their guest list was shaping up, and Zoe had even found her dream Jewish wedding attire. But they were stuck on one thing: “We’re not members of a synagogue,” Zoe said. “We’re spiritual but not super religious. We don’t want a c

When I first met Amy and Ben, a lovely couple from Toronto, they were sitting across from me at a small café downtown. The look on their faces said it all — excitement, love, and just a touch of confusion. Amy smiled nervously and said, “So… we have kind of a big question. We’re planning our Jewish wedding, but we’re not members of a synagogue. We love Jewish traditions, but we don’t really want a formal Rabbi-led ceremony. Is it even possible to have a Jewish wedding without

Blame Is Heavy — And It Slows You Down Blame is like carrying a backpack full of rocks. Every time something goes wrong and you say, “It’s not my fault, it’s theirs,” you toss another stone in. At first, it feels light. Manageable. You might even forget it’s there. But over time, that backpack gets heavier. You start moving slower. You feel tired, frustrated, stuck. And eventually, it becomes impossible to move forward — not because life is unfair, but because you’re weighed

When Emotions Take the Wheel Ever seen your child spiral from calm to chaos in seconds? One small trigger — and suddenly they are flooded. Angry. Crying. Shut down. That was Sam, one of my students from Los Angeles. But what I taught him applies far beyond children — it shows up in our relationships, our work, and even in the way couples navigate the sacred journey of marriage. Because in every human heart, the same truth exists: we are not puppets of our emotions. We are the

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Blame is like carrying a backpack full of rocks. Every time something goes wrong and you say, “It’s not my fault, it’s theirs,” you toss...

Hi, I’m Cantor Ben, and over the years I’ve officiated countless weddings, baby naming ceremonies, and Jewish newborn ceremonies across...

Hi, I’m Cantor Ben, and I want to share a story that has shaped Jewish life for centuries. It is the story of a young queen named Esther....

Hi, I’m Cantor Ben. I’ve been blessed to serve as a Jewish Wedding Officiant in Toronto for many years, helping couples create...

Hi, I’m Cantor Ben. I was mentored by a great Jewish wedding Rabbi , but I am a Cantor—not a Rabbi. Over the years, I’ve officiated...

Hi, I’m Cantor Ben. I was mentored by a great Jewish wedding Rabbi, and though I am not a Rabbi myself, I’ve carried forward his wisdom...

Hi, I am Cantor Ben. Over the years, I have had the privilege of officiating many weddings as a Jewish Wedding Cantor in Toronto. Each...