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Ben Silverberg

Mindfulness for a Better Life: Enhancing Your Jewish Wedding Experience



Hello, I’m Cantor Ben, and welcome to my blog. This journey into mindfulness explores the significant impact of being present in the moment, both for our personal satisfaction and our relationships with others.


Understanding Mindfulness


Mindfulness means paying full attention to what's happening, to what you're doing, and to the space you're moving through. While this might seem trivial, we often veer away from the matter at hand. Our minds take flight, we lose touch with our bodies, and soon we're engrossed in obsessive thoughts about the past or worrying about the future. This constant distraction makes us anxious and stressed.


A Personal Story on Mindfulness


About a year ago, my five-year-old son asked me to play a make-believe game with him. We were having fun, but my mind started drifting to work. I decided to check some emails on my phone in the middle of our game. My son got very angry at me and said, "Stop looking at your phone!" He felt upset and hurt, and he stormed off. I felt really ashamed that I chose work emails over playing with my son. This incident taught me a valuable lesson about being mindful and present. When I am fully immersed in whatever I’m doing, I can enjoy bonding with my son and make meaningful connections.


Another example is when my wife and I went out for ice cream with another couple on a Sunday afternoon. Initially, we were having a great time walking around downtown Toronto and enjoying our ice cream. However, we sensed that the other couple was on edge and stressed. When we asked them what was wrong, they admitted they had another social plan scheduled too close to our get-together. They kept checking their phones for the time and weren't relaxed or engaged in our conversation. On the way home, my wife and I discussed the importance of being mindful and fully immersed in whatever plans we make so that we can fully enjoy them without being preoccupied with the next event.


The Importance of Mindfulness in Jewish Weddings


As a Jewish wedding officiant in Toronto, I often see how mindfulness can transform the experience of a Jewish wedding ceremony. One couple, Pamela and Jack, came to me to officiate their Jewish wedding ceremony. They spoke about their problem with anxiety and never enjoying what they were doing in the moment. Through my life coaching and 20 years of marrying couples, I gave them advice to help set them up for a strong relationship and marriage, enabling them to be their optimal selves.


Pamela and Jack's Journey to Mindfulness


Pamela and Jack appreciated the personalized approach to their Jewish wedding ceremony. They gave me incredible feedback, noting how the preparation and the ceremony itself were tailored to their vision. I spoke about what they love about each other, why they were choosing to marry, and what qualities they most admire in each other. They loved the incorporation of modern music from Broadway, making the ceremony engaging for all. I also included light symbolism so that all guests knew what was happening during their 30-minute ceremony.


Two and a half years after their wedding, Pamela and Jack asked me to officiate the Jewish baby naming ceremony of their little daughter. It was an honor to continue being part of their journey and to help them celebrate another significant milestone in their lives.


How Mindfulness Transforms Lives


Mindfulness is a powerful tool that enhances personal satisfaction and improves relationships. At Jewish Wedding Services, we incorporate mindfulness into our ceremonies and preparation processes. Whether you are planning a traditional Jewish wedding or a modern Jewish wedding, mindfulness can help you fully enjoy and cherish every moment.


As your Jewish wedding Cantor who was mentored by an awesome Jewish wedding rabbi, I aim to create ceremonies that reflect your unique love story and values. From Jewish wedding rituals and customs to personalized Jewish wedding vows, mindfulness plays a key role in making your day special. Our approach to Jewish wedding planning ensures that you are fully present and engaged, allowing you to savor every moment.


Join Us in the Journey of Mindfulness


We invite you to join us on this journey of mindfulness. Whether you are planning a Jewish wedding ceremony or a baby naming ceremony, mindfulness can significantly enhance your experience. Our Jewish wedding services include everything from helping you find wedding event planners who will help you with Jewish wedding venue selection to Jewish wedding music and Jewish wedding decorations. I also offer Jewish baby naming services, ensuring your newborn ceremonies are as special as your wedding day. Looking forward to hearing from you.


Sincerely Cantor Ben

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