Turning Minutes Into a Marriage That Lasts

Hi, I am Cantor Ben. Over the years, I have had the privilege of officiating many weddings as a Jewish Wedding Cantor in Toronto. Each couple teaches me something new about love, patience, and resilience.

Let me tell you about Ashley and Tod, a Jewish couple from Toronto whose wedding I had the honor of officiating. Their story captures a lesson we all need to remember about time, leadership, and love.

The Ten Minute Lesson

If you are supposed to meet someone and they are ten minutes late, you have two choices. You can sit there fuming, scrolling through your phone, and wasting those minutes. Or you can turn that waiting time into productive time.

Now here is where it gets real. Ten minutes a day, every day for a year, is more than sixty hours you either invest or throw away. That is nearly three full days of potential growth, connection, or rest lost to frustration.

Ashley and Tod understood this lesson well. They told me during their Jewish Wedding Planning process that time together was precious. Even when one of them had to wait for the other to finish a long day at work, they made those small pauses meaningful. Sometimes Tod would bring along a book about Jewish history. Other times Ashley would jot down wedding vow ideas. Those ten minutes added up.

Their patience and perspective reminded me that success in marriage, just like in life, is about how you choose to use your time.

Why This Matters for a Jewish Wedding

When I serve as a Jewish Wedding Officiant, I see many couples stressed about the details. Which Jewish Wedding Venue will be perfect? What music should play during the Jewish Wedding Hora? How should the Jewish Wedding Decorations look?

But Ashley and Tod approached their Jewish Wedding Ceremony differently. They made time for the quiet moments. While planning the Jewish Wedding Chuppah and selecting their Jewish Wedding Ketubah, they asked themselves not only about design, but about meaning.

That intentional use of time is what transforms a Traditional Jewish Wedding or Modern Jewish Wedding into a memory that truly lasts.

A Life Coaching Perspective

As a Cantor who was mentored by a great Jewish Wedding Rabbi, I often bring life coaching principles into my wedding work. I tell couples: your time is your most valuable currency. How you use it reflects what you value most.

Think of time like a diamond. If you leave it in a drawer, it does nothing. But if you cut it with care and use it with intention, it becomes a masterpiece. Ashley and Tod learned to invest time not just in big milestones, but in the small daily choices.

That same principle applies when preparing students for Bar and Bat Mitzvahs, or when I guide couples through a Jewish Baby Naming Ceremony. Time invested intentionally builds confidence, joy, and resilience.

Ashley and Tod’s Wedding Day

Their wedding day in Toronto was breathtaking. They chose a Jewish Wedding Venue filled with natural light, decorated with flowers that matched their Jewish Wedding Invitations perfectly. The Jewish Wedding Music filled the air as family and friends gathered.

When I stood under the Jewish Wedding Chuppah with them, I could feel the years of small choices and intentional time they had invested in one another. They signed their Jewish Wedding Ketubah, exchanged heartfelt Jewish Wedding Vows, and celebrated with the joyful Jewish Wedding Dance and Jewish Wedding Hora.

Every detail, from the Jewish Wedding Photographer capturing candid moments to the thoughtful Jewish Wedding Attire, reflected their values. It was a Jewish Wedding Celebration that blended Jewish Wedding Traditions with personal touches that told their story.

Building Beyond the Wedding

For many couples, the journey continues after the wedding. Ashley and Tod have already shared with me their excitement about starting a family and hosting a Baby Naming Ceremony Jewish when the time comes. They want to honor their child with meaningful Jewish Newborn Ceremonies, including traditions like a Jewish Baby Naming Celebration with music, blessings, and family.

They have even started planning ideas for a Jewish Baby Naming Invitation and thinking about what Jewish Baby Naming Music might accompany the service. They understand that a Jewish Baby Naming Tradition is more than ritual, it is about carving time for memory and meaning.

Why Intentional Time Matters

Every time you waste ten minutes, you are teaching yourself that your time is not valuable. But every time you use it wisely, you strengthen your relationships and your future.

Ashley and Tod’s story is a reminder that the most meaningful parts of a Jewish Wedding Ceremony or a Jewish Baby Naming Service are not the grand gestures, but the small, intentional choices made again and again.

When couples treat time as sacred, their marriage grows strong. When families protect their time, their traditions stay alive.

A Challenge For You

Here are three simple ways you can apply this lesson in your own life:

1. Transform Waiting Into Growth

The next time you are waiting for someone, read a passage from the Torah, reflect on a value you want to live, or write a note of gratitude.

2. Make Time Sacred

Choose one evening each week to turn off phones and connect. Whether it is planning your future or sharing stories, those moments build your foundation.

3. Celebrate With IntentionIf

you are planning a Jewish Wedding Reception or a Jewish Baby Naming Ceremony, focus not only on the decorations or attire, but on how you want people to feel.

Final Thought

Ashley and Tod taught me that small moments add up to a lifetime of strength. Just like a Jewish Wedding Ketubah is not just paper, but a contract of love, how you use your minutes is not just about the clock, but about your character.

So I will leave you with this: what are you doing with your ten minutes today? Are you scrolling aimlessly, or are you building something eternal?

If you are ready to use your time with purpose, whether in preparing for a Jewish Wedding Toronto celebration, planning a Jewish Baby Naming Ceremony, or simply strengthening your family traditions, I would be honored to guide you.

I was mentored by a great Jewish Wedding Rabbi, and though I am not a Rabbi, as a Cantor I bring those lessons forward with love and care.

Thanks,

Ben