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True to You: Embracing Healing and Growth in Your Wedding Journey


As we navigate the path towards marriage, the excitement of planning a wedding often brings with it an unspoken pressure. For Amanda and Steven, this journey was about more than just organizing their special day in Toronto; it was about confronting their pasts to build a future together, filled with understanding and love. This story is a testament to the transformative power of facing our history, not just as individuals but as a couple stepping into a lifetime commitment.

The Weight of the Past

Imagine walking through life with a backpack filled with stones, each one representing an unresolved issue or past mistake. This was the metaphor I shared with Amanda and Steven as we discussed the importance of confronting their pasts. Just like the physical weight of those stones, unresolved issues can cloud our present and future, making it difficult to move forward freely and with clarity.

A Journey of Courage and Honesty

For Amanda and Steven, confronting their past was about more than just acknowledging old wounds; it was about healing and growth. It was akin to my personal encounter with a childhood bully at a party years later, where a simple conversation served as a powerful moment of closure and healing. Similarly, admitting a past mistake to my mother and offering amends, despite her refusal to accept it, taught me the profound lessons of forgiveness, love, and honesty. These experiences, though fraught with vulnerability, are pivotal in moving forward with less burden and more freedom.

The Power of Confrontation in Marriage

As a Jewish Wedding Cantor and life coach, I emphasized to Amanda and Steven the importance of this journey not only for their personal growth but as a foundation for their marriage. Confronting the past allows us to enter into a marriage with honesty, openness, and a deep understanding of ourselves and each other. It's about creating a space where mistakes are acknowledged, growth is embraced, and forgiveness is freely given.

Transforming Their Wedding Ceremony

Incorporating these themes of healing and growth into Amanda and Steven's Jewish Wedding Ceremony in Toronto, we personalized their vows to reflect their journey. Standing under the Jewish Wedding Chuppah, they pledged not only to love and honor each other but also to continue confronting any challenges together, with courage and compassion. Their ceremony became a celebration of not just their love but their commitment to a future unburdened by the past.

Embracing the Journey Together

Amanda and Steven’s story is a powerful reminder that marriage is not just about the joyous celebration of love but also about the strength found in vulnerability and the commitment to mutual growth. By choosing to confront their pasts, they set a foundation for a marriage characterized by understanding, resilience, and an ever-deepening connection.

A Call to Action

As you plan your wedding, I encourage you to reflect on your journey and consider the stones you may be carrying. Whether it's through open conversations with your partner, seeking forgiveness, or offering it, remember that confronting the past is a step towards a future filled with freedom, love, and understanding.

Amanda and Steven’s courage to face their past and embrace their future is a testament to the strength and beauty of true love. Let their story inspire you to embark on your own journey of healing and growth, ensuring that your wedding day is not just a celebration of love but a milestone in a lifelong journey of mutual understanding and compassion.

As we continue to offer Jewish Wedding Services in Toronto, including Baby Naming Ceremonies and Jewish Newborn Ceremonies, let us all remember the importance of confronting our pasts, not only for the sake of our peace but for the freedom and growth it brings to our relationships and futures.


In the end, Amanda and Steven's wedding was more than a ceremony; it was a declaration of their journey towards healing, understanding, and unconditional love. Their story is a beacon for all couples navigating the pressures of wedding planning, reminding us that at the heart of every union is the opportunity for growth, forgiveness, and a deeper connection.

I was fortunate to be mentored by a fantastic Jewish wedding Rabbi, and I am honored and privileged to help Jewish wedding couples in Toronto. I look forward to hearing from you.

Cantor Ben

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